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Survival in a long distance relationship
Survival in a long distance relationship

Survival in a long distance relationship

Long distance relationships suck. I have never actually met someone who said, “Yeah, my girlfriend in Uganda and its great.” On the contrary, everyone in a long distance relationship tends to have this agonizing feeling that your heart is slowly being carved out of your chest by a butter knife and replaced with unsatisfactory Skype calls and blinking chat windows.

I get it, I’ve been there. Two of my relationships were long distant and trust me it was not a walk in the park. It takes a lot of work from both sides to survive. As long as the couple is willing to do the work, the relationship will survive and become stronger. Here are a few tips on how to survive your long distance relationship.

1. Communication

They say communication is the key to any long lasting relationship but this is more essential in a long distance relationship. Find it upon your routine to communicate whether it’s in form of video calls or messages. We live in a digital world and communication has never been made easier as it is today. Communication also means updating your partner with whatever is happening in their lives and ask them how they’re doing. Allow yourselves to dive into deeper and meaningful conversations from mundane things like the weather to serious matters such as the current political climate. Never forget to make them feel loved and appreciated even as they’re miles away from you.

2. Develop a sense of understanding

This can be very hard especially if the problem is lack of communication. When this happens, always remember that they have a life of their own and they actually get busy. In as much as you miss them, they can’t always respond to your messages right away. They have work, academics or whatever it is, be assured in the fact that they will respond to you in their free time. By understanding them, you’re showing them love and support.

3. Plan and set an end date to the relationship

Long distance relationships can be tedious especially if you can’t see the end of it. Even the occasional short visits from your partner will get difficult as time goes. Start planning on a way to merge your worlds and reunite. If it means relocating to a common location, work towards it. Unless a long distance relationship has an end date, one person may end up losing interest.

4. View it as an opportunity

We still believe that self development will make you a better person and partner. Use your time to develop new skills, strengthen existing relationships and start a business or a new hobby. You will be glad that you did something constructive during your time apart.

5. Don’t do things your partner wouldn’t approve of

You know your partner well enough to know the things they would not approve of. Avoid things that would lead to an argument or conflict. Just because you are miles away from each other does not mean ya’ll can do whatever you please. Both of you need to respect the relationship and avoid things that might cause conflicts. No argument is ever worth losing your partner over.

6. Surprise each other

Well, who does not love surprises? Plan a surprise visit to your partner’s town. Plan a picnic, movie date or anything that would excite your partner. Get creative with your messages and try something unexpected. Put a smile on their faces and let them know that you’ve been thinking about them. Embrace spontaneity.

We agree that long distance relationships are not for everyone but we guarantee you that the rewards are worthwhile. Trust is a major factor in all relationships but most especially for long distant ones. I hope these tips work for you in your journey to add more things to spice up your relationship.

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